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Friday, March 16, 2007 @ 3/16/2007 10:43:00 PM Share with you something I read; do read everything if you have the time ok? The Fear of Being Alone People stay in unfulfilling relationships for any number of reasons, but chief among them is the fear of being alone. Think about it – are you hanging on to this relationship because you’re afraid you might not find someone better? Does the thought of being single scare you? Do you believe that being with someone you don’t really love is better than being on your own? Are you “settling” because you think if you wait around too long, you might get left on the shelf? Staying in a relationship because you’re afraid of being alone is a recipe for unhappiness. Firstly, it probably means you have low self-esteem, which often makes you insecure, needy and over-sensitive. Secondly, it means you’re not assuming responsibility for your own happiness and self-worth; that you’re using the relationship to feel accepted and loved. Thirdly, this fear of being alone causes you to use anger, blame, tears, guilt and so on to compel your partner to stay with you. Or you yourself might be forcing yourself to tolerate unreasonable or abusive behaviour. And these are only a few of the main consequences I can think of at the moment. Others like getting pregnant because you think a child will bond you and your partner for life require more time than I have today. The thing is, we are only truly alone when we abandon ourselves; when we refuse to take responsibility for who we are and what it takes for us to be happy. Besides, being in a relationship doesn’t mean one cannot feel alone. In fact, the behaviour we’re driven to when we’re in unfulfilling relationships often strains them to the point where we feel alienated from our partners anyway. Ironically, the fear of being alone has had the biggest hand in making us truly alone. On the other hand, an emotionally-responsible person is never alone because he attracts love, friendship and goodwill. He has no lack of close family members and good friends. And if a path of affection is closed to him, he easily channels the abundant love he has elsewhere. So what kind of person are you? Are you the type who clings on to a relationship because the thought of being alone is unbearable? Or are you responsible for your own feelings? We all can become more emotionally responsible by realizing that only we hold the key to our own happiness. No one else is obliged to be with us or to make us happy. We have to learn to manage our loneliness, and the big first step is not to to be afraid of it. The funny thing is that the less you fear loneliness, the less likely you are to suffer from it. People are attracted to individuals who are independent, self-assured and comfortable with who they are. Remember, we receive love when we give love, so always keep your heart open. Credits: 'Eugene Loh, A Slice of Life, 938LIVE, a station of MediaCorp Radio' |